Change is Inevitable

Change has a considerable psychological impact on the human mind. To the fearful it is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful it is encouraging because things may get better. To the confident it is inspiring because the challenge exists to make things better.
King Whitney Jr.
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I have been having a lot of conversations lately with people about CHANGE. It did not begin with speaking about change but the bottom line was being able to accept change. One of the most fascinating things that separate humans from animals, beyond rational thought, is the power of change. Animals must continue the same behavior, the same movement, and the same direction without hesitation. Humans are blessed with the beautiful choice of change!!! We can change our thinking, our behavior, and our mind. This is great because this means we are able to grow into something new, we are able to create and recreate, and we get a do over. We are able to rationally and actively change our lives!!!

How can such a beautiful thing become the center of discussions that are usually filled with hurt, pain, and confusion?

Well its simple, humans do not and are not able to accept the one thing that causes our waves to crash against our human shores. In other words, we can not accept the thing that helps to mold us into greatness.

Parents put their children in a box and plan their entire life before their 16th birthday and when it does not go as they planned, there is conflict. Friendships end because one person begins to change and the other person can not accept it. Civil uprisings occur because a certain people want change but they are forced to remain in a box by the government.

Why are most people scared of change within one another?

People believe that through the unfamiliar they will no longer be familiar. People become worried that what bonded them previously; whether it was doing a certain thing, having a certain pattern, or thinking a certain way; now that it has changed slightly, the relationship will change.

But, people must not be put in boxes and when you truly understand this notion, you allow people to change without hesitation. A true relationship, whether it is between family, friends, or lovers, will remain through the changes.

The more you are resistant to change within a person, the more you will stop the person from evolving which will eventually kill the relationship. What if you stopped a chicken from hatching and somehow you kept it in the egg, eventually it would die. This is exactly what happens if you physically, mentally, or emotionally hinder someone from changing. You kill them little by little as a result of the hurt and pain.

Change is scary and hurtful for everyone involved but when you as the receiver allow change to happen without conflict you allow love to flourish. Even if you are on the short end of the deal, such as a break up or you lose a friend.

For it is better to allow change and produce love, then to stop change and produce conflict. That love represents love for self and love for the other.

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This is dedicated to Hillary Clinton and Barack Obama for forcing the ideals of this country and its citizens to change.