Date Yourself

There are many different reasons why people enter into relationships - whether they are personal, professional, acquaintances, or friendships. The reasons are varied but the reason that frightens me the most concerning people is when they look for others to complete who they are; they look for others to define the very essence of where they stand in this world.

Many of us do this very thing. We are involved in a romantic relationship and we allow our being to be lost in this person to the point that we forget how to stand on our own two feet. We depend on this other person for support to the point that we forget that we have strength enough to support ourselves. We depend on this other person for happiness, to the point that we forget that we experienced happiness before them. Last but not least, we depend on them to complete who we are but not realizing they are not one of the main ingredients that make up our personal recipe called Life. That this relationship in fact is just something to add spice and flavor.

It does not mean this relationship is not important it means that a relationship whether it is familial, friendship, or professional should not be your focus to the point that you lose yourself in it.

I have heard friends of mine say after a break up now what do I do. My response to them is always the same, you keep doing you. Whatever you did during the relationship you continue to do now. Usually they will then say well I did everything with them. This means they forgot who they were.

While in a relationship whether romantic, friendship, or professional have a hobby outside of that relationship. If you work all the time what if suddenly that job is taken away, you will be devastated. But if you have worked hard while maintaining who you are, if it is taken away at least you are still in tact.

I go out to eat by myself at least once a month and I love it. I always have fun talking to the bartender and other people in the restaurant. I have a good time with me, myself, and I. This is just one of things I do to make sure I do not lose myself within any relationship in my life.

I have lost friendships, romantic relationships, and professional relationships for whatever reason and what I have realized is that life goes on and so will you.

Start today to celebrate who you are and do not involve anyone just allow you to love you. If a relationship disappears at least you will still be in tact.